Giving a Voice to the Silence offers positive angles to the issue that faces those with mental illness. Living with Schizo-Affective Disorder and being able to share my experiences with others, is the best way I know how to pay it forward. Life can be difficult, my goal is to bring a bit of hope to a place where many feel there is none.
Showing posts with label bullies. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bullies. Show all posts

Friday, January 6, 2012

Label your items, not people

False Accusations
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I look around my office/craft room and see boxes with labels on them telling me what is inside.  Papers, notebooks, craft supplies and of course, the inevitable junk box.  These labels are a necessity and keep me from searching frantically for what I need.  It's a shame not all labels work that way.  When used to locate an item or as a direction, they are most helpful, when we label people, however, the idea and use of these word's changes and are all too often used against us. 

Kids begin this at an early age. We now refer to it as bullying.  They use names and labels to make fun of others, telling someone they are fat, ugly or useless or simply annoying can have damaging effect in many ways.  Those who are using the words think they are being funny and are in someway looking for attention for themselves.  In turn they receive the label of a bully and may themselves be cast aside because of their self-imposed  label.  

As we grow older, we continue this trend, not in the same words necessarily, but in the idea.  Enter the work place and there are new labels.  Executives are seen as stuck up and unapproachable, giving them the level of snobby.  Those with menial jobs are called worthless, when they are actually willing do the jobs no one else wants.  The secretary who dresses modestly is teased for being an old maid because she does not flaunt her body to the public.  

Those in the general public are not exempt.  The mother living in the homeless shelter with three young children is seen as lazy and looking for a hand out, when she has just saved herself and her children from her abusive husband and is trying to start over to create a safe place for her children to grow up.  We fear those of a different color or nationality because they are labeled as dangerous and untrustworthy, the media has fed into this fear by reporting the bad and not focusing on the good that does happen. 

One of the greatest uses of degrading labels is the stigma of mental illness.  Does anyone truly understand the complexity of the brain and its capabilities?  It is that misunderstanding and fear of the unknown that brings the label of crazy, ignorant, freak and loner, when like anyone else they are looking for acceptance and understanding.  Many people would be surprised to learn how many individuals they interact with each day who have some sort of mental illness.  The reason they remain secretive about it is because of the label that would come with going public.  Their life would change, who they were before the admission would no longer matter and would now only be seen as mentally ill, unapproachable and an outcast.  Two words that can change a life in a second.  

Labels have their place, make sure you use them in the right one.
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Thursday, February 21, 2008

The Effect of Bullying

Researchers have discovered a correlation between bullying and depression and anxiety in kids. In a study with identical twins, it was discovered that when one twin was bullied between the ages of 7 and 9, and the other was not, the bullied twin was more likely to keep problems to themselves, internalizing them leading to symptoms of depression – as opposed to acting out as some may expect.

Though the correlation is there between bullying and depression, there is still the question as to if it is solely bullying that is causing the internal issues? Family dynamics, living conditions or already existing mental health issues – often times attract bullies to them and can increase the risks of future depression.

While the discoveries of the effects of bulling are evident, the focus needs to go with stopping the bullying and helping those who have been bullied. This does not affect only one person.

A school in California has taken a unique approach to teaching kids empathy with the help of a baby. Will the help? It may be too soon to tell, but the fact that the effort is being made says a lot. We are tired of the tragedy that is all too often the result of bullying. The kids are tired of living in fear; parents are tired of sending their kids to school praying they will return home. The cycle continues and it needs to be broken. It is unfortunate, as I have said before, that change comes after tragedy.