Ok, this isn’t exactly what I had in mind for this letter,
but when I was looking for ideas, I came
It is an interesting phenomenon really; we give so much of
ourselves to others and know we need to take time just to relax, recharge our
batteries and be able to there for those who
need us. The main obstacle thought
is our self; we don’t do it. I read a
piece that talked about this in depth, saying that it is mostly women who
struggle with self-care, to no one’s real surprise. The article, titled "How to stop feeling guilty about self-care," mentions, “We are surrounded by overt and covert
messages that encourage us to minimize our own needs and feel guilty when we
engage in self-care.”
Self-centeredness is what it is called when we take time for
ourselves, when it is actually the best thing we can do. We are taught that we should always be there
for those who need us, our families,
friends, even strangers; however, the focus is not put on self-care. Most people I think would not know where to
start if asked what they would do with time off, or if they had to focus on
their own life for a while. It’s not how
we are told to think.
That is where the problem lies, we get tired and lose focus
and in time begin to resent those around us for demanding our attention, when
we are the ones who do not say no, or say this is not a good time. The most important person we need to take
care of is the person in the mirror, if they are not happy, rested, focused and
treated well, there will be nothing left for anyone else.
By no means is this an easy task, I have tried more time
than I can remember to take the step in the direction of self-care, but easily
fall away with the demands of the world.
It is something to look at though and see where you may be able to take
time, even just a few minutes a day to sit back and breathe, forget about the
house, chores, work and all those things that take our attention from what is
most important.
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